been so busy these few days )=
hardly haf time to reali do my own leisure stuffs
anyway~ read a bk recently haha..
this author was intro by my last gems teacher from body language.
tt time when i borrowed e bk, it reali interest me!
he wrote from body language to the gender differences in quite a humorous way
share with u some things i read fr the current bk ^^
Allan + Barbara Pease:
WHY MEN CAN ONLY DO ONE THING AT A TIME AND WOMEN NEVER STOP TALKING
WOMEN (left) VS MEN (right)
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Because vocab is not a hotspot in a woman's brain, she can feel that the precise definition of words is irrelevant. She'll then take poetic licence with words or won't shy away from exaggeration simply fo effect. Men, however, intepret every word as if it is true and respond accordingly.
example...
Robyn: You never agree with anything i say.
John: WHat do you mean never? i agreed with u last 2 points didnt i?RObyn: You always disagree with me and u always want to be right!John: Not true! i dont always disagree with u! i agreed with u this morning and last sat so u cant say i always disagree!RObyn: You say this every time i bring this up!John: That's a lie! i dont say it every time!She continues arguing using emotions to fight him; he keeps defining her words.A woman needs to learn that she'll have to argue logically with a man if she wants to win and onli give him one thought at a time.----------------------------HOW MEN AND WOMEN LISTEN TYpically, a woman can use an aveage of 6 listening expessions in a 10-second period to reflect, and then feed back the speaker's emotions. WOman mirror the emotions being expressed by the speaker. To somone watching, it an almost lk as if the events being discussed are happening to both women.THis is wad exactly a man needs to do to capture a woman's attentiona and keep her listening!THe biologial objective of our male warrior when listening was to remain impassive, so as not to betray his emotions. This emotionless mask that men use while listening allows them to feel in control of the situationm but does not mean that a man does not experience any emotions. Brain scans reveal that men feel emotion as strongly as women, but avoid showing it.---------------------------Women define their own self-worth by quality of relationships.If a woman is unhappy in her relationships, she cannot conecntrate on her work.Men define themselves by their work and accomplishments.If a man is unhappy at work, he cant focus on his relationships.Under stress, a woman sees spending time talking with her man as reward, but a man sees it as an interference in his problem solving process. She wants to talk and cuddle, and he wants to watch football. To a woman, he seems uncaring and disinterested, and a man sees her as annoying. These perceptions are the reflections of the different organisation and priorities in their brains. Understanding this difference will not take the pressure off u and ur partner, and u will not judge each other's behaviour so harshly.------------------Under pressure, women talk without thinking and men act without thinking. That's y 90% of people in jails are men and 90% of people who see therapists are women.When men and women are under pressure...- Men stop talking- WOmen became worried- Women under stress so starts talking- Men can't handle!- To help him feel better, she tries to encourage him to talk bout the prob- Men feels frustrated and retreats.- women feels rejected and unloved~ )=Men shuts off under extreme stress or when finding solution to a prob.Women shuts off when she has been hurt, lied, or abused.So if a man completely shuts off, he'll be fine, so let him do it.But if a woman shuts off, there's trouble brewing and it's time for a deep discussion.--------------------------Women see eating out as a way to build and nurture relationship, discuss prob or support a fren. When eating out, women call eveyone by their first name.If Barbara, Robyn, Lisa and Fiona go to lunch, they will call each other Barbara, Robyn, Lisa and Fiona.Men see eating out as a logial approach to food - no cooking, shopping or ccleaning up. WHen out, men will avoid intimacy with other men.If Ray, Allan, Mike and Bill go out fo a dink, they refer each other as Dickhead, Wanker, Numbskull and Useless.
